Mediation FAQ


Q: How does divorce mediation work?

A: In the initial meeting, I explain the process in detail to both parties and work with the couple to help them set their own agenda, based on clarifying what is important to each person. I help the parties look at the issues in light of their needs and interests, keep track of agreements reached and still pending, and develop an agreement tailored to the parties needs. Mediation is particularly helpful when children are involved and parents must determine custody and parenting time issues. Both parties are encouraged to obtain information and advice from attorneys and financial experts as needed.

Q: If my spouse and I decide to work with you, do we also need to hire an attorney?

A: I encourage all my clients to consult with an attorney to find out what their legal rights are. This information is as important as gathering financial information and determining the emotional needs of the children. Consulting with an attorney, i.e. purchasing some of their time to get their expertise on specific questions, is different from hiring or retaining an attorney who would then take over on your behalf. Some couples need this, but many couples prefer to keep control over the process, knowing that they can get legal advise from an attorney when needed.

Q: How do we file the mediated agreement?

A: At the end of the mediation process, you will have a document prepared by me that reflects all the decisions you have made regarding your finances, your children, and support issues. You can then have an attorney or a paralegal file the paperwork. The Mediated Agreement becomes a permanent part of your filing documents.

Q: Can you help if we want to make changes in our agreement after the divorce?

A: Yes. Mediation is a more efficient, productive way to make changes in support or parenting circumstances. After you have agreed on the changes in mediation, you will be able to file a modification with the court to formalize the changes.

Q: Do you work with unmarried parties?

A: Yes. Unmarried parties have many of the same issues and can I assist with parenting and financial decisions in these cases as well.

Q: What if my spouse won't mediate?

A: Very often one spouse is more ready to consider divorce than the other. If you need direction and assistance now, I can work with you individually as a divorce coach. I can help you decide what to do next, how to work with your spouse, and direct you to additional resources as needed.

Q: What other kinds of disputes do you mediate?

A: I also mediate business, estate and elder care issues, helping families who must deal with an incapacitated parent, or with the death of a parent.